Hafeez also advises making sure you're not interested in dating just to distract yourself from your breakup.So a fling or one-night stand after a breakup may not be a bad thing—but if you're looking to get into another serious relationship, you're probably better off waiting until you're more or less over your previous one.Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?How long should you , says it's hard to put a number on it—but you'll probably want to wait at least a month before jumping back into the dating pool again."Most people need a month or two to process the breakup, to mourn, and to integrate lessons before jumping back in if they were in a fairly serious relationship," she says.(If you share the lease, deal with it like responsible adults. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. Besides, if your ex rejects you a second time, it won’t just hurt; the rejection will sting with extra humiliation and regret. No woman on her deathbed says, “I really wish I slept with my ex-husband one last time.” Let the break be clean. Don’t lock him out.) The thrill of revenge only feeds bitterness and hatred. Recruit a support system of friends and family to help you fill the time normally spent with a significant other. Social media can be dangerous when dealing with heartache.
You broke up last week, but you still “have thoughts” you want to process with the ex. “Defriending” or at least hiding statuses can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable — or worse, more awesome — than yours. If you have a tattoo-design epiphany in the days following heartache, wait a few months before acting on it. Hair grows back, but be warned: a bad bowl cut can hurt your already-bruised confidence.
Don’t lose heart: you will move on in time, find a love better suited for you, and all of this will be a memory. If your ex is pushing for friendship, stand your ground if you’re uncomfortable with the idea.
In the meantime, when mourning the end of a relationship, be sure to avoid the following “don’ts” of breakup etiquette, which can just end up harming you more. Right now, you’re not looking for a friend who looks exactly like the person who broke your heart.
You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.
"This way, you will feel whole and in high self-esteem before you go back into the next relationship and won't just be trying to fill that hole," says Sherman.